Regrets by GingerZ
I don’t have regrets. Now don’t get me wrong, I have moments of where I should have handled situations better but regrets nah. When I think of those moments, I get this butterfly effect in my tummy and I used to change my thoughts. Now I let it slide through me, my ostrich mentality phase is over – well maybe not for the current moments but for many of them that have passed. I couldn’t face them mention them admit to them – but in order for me “grow” I need to.
So when these moments
smack me doosh in my face – I try to say ok – let’s try – but in all honesty I
don’t want to – those moments show me in a time where I was …. Simply put ….
Dumb. And I don’t want to ever go there
- I don’t want to relive – I can’t put some things right !
What I can do – is I have no clue. It makes me want to be better - to try harder
to fix what’s ahead of me than to look back and feel ……….. I don’t even know
the word. But yes, it has affected me –
it does make me feel like I want to hide.
Hide where – this is not me hiding from others – it’s my
thoughts – it lives in me – so ostrich mentality I will have for some of them
and for others that are not as intense …. I will deal. I have said some sorrys to those – a
little too late I know but I needed to make a start.
Starts are good – it means I am moving forward. Strangely enough that gooloogooloo feeling
doesn’t go away… or maybe I am just hungry?
Comments
Thank you for speaking about this delicate matter - I can relate! And then some general insights from a Neuro Coach: Did you know that guilt feelings centre on the individual's perceptions that they cannot manage their life in a responsible manner. The experiences of the individual centre on the acceptance of guilt for everything that goes wrong, the feeling that punishment is deserved and the domination of guilt feelings. Such a person cannot forgive themselves for their mistakes and condemn and blame themselves continuously. The opposite pole of feelings of guilt is position. So, if you don't feel you have a position in life (mother, daughter, wife, work colleague, and so forth) then your guilt feelings come into play. Also, guilt feelings are one of the aspects of your self-perception, together with a lack of self-worth and inner insecurity. And most people dissociate from these feelings. They pretend they are not there. Unfortunately, it takes a lot of energy to tell yourself constantly: I am not guilty; I am good enough; I have a place in life and I mean something to someone. To tell yourself that constantly also doesn't make a difference because these are values that are ingrained in your being. We call this emotional loading. It drains you of energy. If you are at a good place in life and your values are at a balance then these feelings come naturally and you don't have to tell yourself all the time.
Haju
Regret is a feeling of disappointment or even remorse over past actions/choices.
Lots of reflection, maybe on missed "opportunities", mistakes or even unmet expectations.
Reflecting on our past is natural and important for personal growth.
Learning from our experiences is vital for forward positive growth whereas dwelling just consumes time and stunts personal development.
People meet, some people fall in love, some stay Fallen😀 in love, not everyone, or everything works out for the best.
People marry, people unmarry.
People are happy, people are unhappy.
That is life.
I personally have looked back thousands of times and wished/hoped differently .
In the end I realise that it's difficult when things are going mostly poorly and in these mostly difficult, often lonely times it's best not to think .
Some of my most fulfilling feats have stemmed from these moments. Success and failure have provided valuable insights and made me wiser.
Reading your little* insights, as I call them, remind every1 here that life is a continuous journey, offering great opportunities all the time. Opportunities to grow and achieve and to engage in the here, the now, the future.
Everytime I read your blog messages I see lots of hints of gratitude amongst everything else on there.
Embrace this journey, learn from your past, seize the moments, create a life of purpose and fulfillment. Keep it up