The Burn Letter

Hey...

Starter 3 "You don’t get to live rent-free in my head another day."

did it not matter at all these 5 years?
did it mean nothing to you knowing me?
am i just the same as all the others:

drunken flirtations without substance?
with no need for kindness.
just breasts & bum, hit & run?

how could i have gotten this so wrong?
awkward this, my musings,
trying to make sense of things:
was it all lies?
the sentiments false?
the interest a sham?

am i that foolish?
could've sworn there was a connection,
if the friendship was fake?
why draw it out for so long?

awkward now... not the silence, nor the indifference;
but that i have to un-know you,
not say hello & how are u;
avoid u when u are around.
Did this not matter at all?

wtf dude,
......

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HOW DO YOU PROCESS SUCH A SUDDEN SHIFT?

You write a burn letter.

A burn letter is a powerful emotional release tool, a letter you write but never send. It’s meant for your eyes only (or the fire).

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Its Purpose?

To purge unspoken feelings: rage, grief, longing, betrayal, bitterness, regret, especially when closure is impossible.
To reclaim your voice after silence or suppression.
But most importantly, to cut energetic ties and free yourself from the emotional loop of longing for someone who chose absence over commitment.

It allows you to create ritual closure... on your terms.

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What Goes Into a Burn Letter?

Raw. Unfiltered. Honest sentiments and considerations.

You might want to write to:

• An ex-lover

• A friend who ghosted you

• A family member who hurt you

• An old version of yourself

• A habit or belief you're finally choosing to release

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And the tone?

Whatever you need it to be.
Petty. Pitiful. Poison-laced.
Heartbroken. Grieving. Gentle.
Fierce. Defensive. Exhausted. Honest.

Let it all out.
Then release it.
Not with guilt. Not with regret.
But with gratitude for the lesson, and a firm I’m done.

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What happens after?

You destroy it.
Burn it (safely).
Rip it. Bury it.
Sink it in water.
Delete it with intention.

The ritual matters.
It’s symbolic.
It’s cathartic.
It’s healing.

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Here are some Burn Letter Starters to get you going:

Starter 1 For Heartbreak / Betrayal:

• "You don’t get to haunt me anymore."

• "This is everything I never said out loud."

• "You taught me exactly what I’ll never accept again."

Starter 2 For Letting Go of Old Patterns / Versions of Self:

• "I release the version of me who thought love had to be earned."

• "I am no longer available for smallness, for shrinking, for half-assed love."

• "I don’t belong to my past anymore."

Starter 3 For Anger / Rage / Unspoken Words:

• "You don’t get to live rent-free in my head another day."

• "Consider this my final act of self-respect."

• "Here’s what I couldn’t say then,but I’ll say it now."

Starter 4 For Self-Love / Reclamation / Closure:

• "I reclaim every piece of me I gave away too easily."

• "You were a chapter. I am the whole damn book."

• "I release you with love, and I set myself free."

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It is time!

Let it all out — and then let it go.
Your healing doesn’t wait on their apology or their explanantion.
It begins the moment you choose you.

🖤 Ready to write your own burn letter?
We are here and we’re holding space for you.