Forever & ever GingerZ & I

Time Share Partners: A New Way to Think About Partnership

Following on from a previous post...

I’ve been thinking: in today’s world, where time is our most precious commodity, isn’t it more practical to think of partnership not as possession, but as shared experience?

A time-share model, if you will, thanks GingerZ...

A New Perspective by GingerZ

“In today's time isn't it easier to have someone, not on a full-time but on a part-time basis where there is no bread and milk issues just moments of sanity when needed, a date here and there and good unadulterated conversations and of course that feeling of fun and adventure

How is that too much to ask for ...

I don't understand the need to habitate together... the need to be in each other's face space all the goddam time .... why can't it be simpler easier less complicated

Life is becoming increasingly challenging

Money is the main root of fights and arguments and lies

So why not obviate all that and be honest of exactly what we need and why ...

Now I can't be the only one who thinks this way

But then I step back and I realise now I know why I am alone... happily alone

So that's what I need .... decided”

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And as usual, GingerZ got me thinking...

I’ve reached a point where I question the need for constant companionship.

Also, why must partnership be bogged down by daily logistics: who’s buying the bread, who forgot the milk, who’s snoring too loud? These niggles are romance killers for sure.

What if partnership didn’t have to mean proximity but presence ... fleeting, intentional, and energizing? Time well spent, and enjoyed by both parties? A date here, a deep conversation there, a weekend of laughter and connection... and then back to your own space, your own rhythm, your own peace.

I’m not anti-love. I’m anti-crowding.

Life is noisy enough; why invite more chaos in?

I crave connection, not cohabitation.

Moments, not maintenance.

I’m done talking about dishes and dinners.

I crave desire and delight.

Followed by departure and peace.

But what if you are in a long-standing partnership? How do you navigate space so that you are guaranteed your own?

Is this selfish? Maybe.

But eventually both parties do  come around to the idea of personal space within a co-habitation set-up (without anyone feeling trapped).

Together, Apart

Partnership used to mean everything under one roof: the kids, the bills, the noise, the same arguments recycled over time.

Now, with grown children and the quiet settling in, I’ve learned that even within marriage, solitude and space are a partnership-saver.

Try becoming partners of a different sort: he has his hobbies and friends, I have mine, and we have some shared ones as well. We orbit the same home but live in independence and inter-dependence together.

It works because we’ve learned that love is not constant closeness; it’s comfortable distance.

Maybe that’s the evolution of partnership, not ownership, not dependency, but the freedom to exit and return to each other for love’s sake.

So Maybe Partnership Today...

...isn’t about building a shared life in one space.

It’s about sharing time intentionally and respectfully, with no illusion of forever after or control.

Whether you’re happily single or decades into marriage, maybe the modern version of love is simply this: the art of not suffocating the person you care about.