The Things We Do (By GingeredZ & I)
In the name of greys, we cover them religiously: box dye, salon dye, even root spray that lasts exactly until your next shampoo. We poke, guasha, and tone our faces with creams to give us a resemblance of the years gone by. We angle the bathroom mirror like detectives searching for evidence of fine lines, sipping collagen and green juice, supplementing and taping, hydrating and healing from our traumas so we can glow from the inside...
She once wisely said, “Getting older is supposed to mean
wisdom, grace, and a mysterious air of knowing better. Instead, it means
standing in the Guardian debating between ‘Chestnut Brown’ and ‘Midnight
Espresso.’ It means a counter full of creams and potions promising miracles and
a face roller that looks suspiciously like a medieval torture device.”
The things we do, all in the name of staying timeless…
She said...
Age gracefully... but act authentically and be loud and
share your wisdom even if the younger generation don’t wanna hear it.
She said...
Laugh along to the chats about Botox, but do casually ask for
a good doctor’s number, you know, for research.
She said...
That chin hair you felt on your way to work, has got to
go...even if it is so minute it requires your glasses and the magnifying mirror
to get the damn thing out.
She said... as she
unwillingly peered in the mirror...
Mirrors takes guts... it takes a whole lot of self-love to
be able to accept what looks back at you... we r our own worst critics.
She said...
I don't look I bypass the figure.... my guts doesn’t extend
that far.
She said ...
Go easy on yourself cause even rolling out of bed is a blessing - the body has been thru that many years of moving wants to slow down but what if we give in to the slowness...
She said
It's ok to treat others better than they treat you ... my
set of love is different to yours and if we see everything as a threat then
everything becomes a problem....
She said
Learn from those lessons. Accept. Swallow. Move on.
Some situations when I revisit them make me want to gag and hide ... I can't i just can't!
She said...
Every single sunrise came thru the darkest hour and if u r
guided by faith, hope and the will ... it's going to be ....
You said...
Living in shadows or in fear of being unworthy isn't a way to live ... we have days.
Dont let one situation define you. As a human -
whatever ur pronoun is or however you identify as - let the narrative of
change be yours. SIMPLE NOT but you on
your way ... that road awaits...
We ride at ....
Darling, we don’t age, we are vintage
Love the last line, we are vintage
ReplyDeleteThanks, darling...see u soon InsyAllah
DeleteGrowing old is a privilege. Gracefully is an art.
DeleteMy gynecologist says my chin hairs are due to polycystic ovarian syndrome. Who wants to tell me being a woman is easy?
ReplyDeleteDefinitely not me...I'm here for it all tho♡
DeleteYour piece reflects is heartfelt, witty, and powerful. It resonates as a collective reflection on aging while also carving space for your personal voice. what I learned from you Z, facing mirrors with courage, going easy on oneself, loving differently, learning from painful lessons, and keeping faith through dark hours.
ReplyDeleteLife happens... live
The piece closes on a note of empowerment: “Darling, we don’t age, we are vintage.” LOVE IT.
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DeleteWitty and wise.
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DeleteAging is beautiful ❤️
ReplyDeleteAgreed♡
DeleteAgreed♡
DeleteThis was so refreshing to read. I always beat myself up about losing weight , to look like what i looked in my 20s.. But its so hard and gets me down all the time.
ReplyDeleteIm going to learn to accept my curves and embrace what i look like now.
More of me to love.. 😘
That's a good way of looking at it♡
DeleteTime may leave its mark, but so does our spirit. With each passing year, we bloom in new and powerful ways.
ReplyDeleteWe are not aging—we are unfolding.
Yes, and lovingly so , thanks for sharing
DeleteAnd at the end of the day, all we have is what has passed yesterday, what we are currently experiencing today and a hope of tomorrow. Live life the way you want it not the way "people" want you to. Enjoy but don't be reckless. And let's try again tomorrow, if today didn't go as planned. B. I. G. ❤️
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DeleteYou're right, rolling out of bed is definitely a blessing, even if we do it with a groan.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful read
ReplyDeleteLove it ❤️
A light hearted response from a male point of view.
ReplyDeleteLIFE IS SHORT, YOU MIGHT AS WELL LIVE IT WITH GREAT LOOKING HAIR , COS EVEN THOUGH LIFE MAY NOT BE PERFECT, MAKE SURE YOUR HAIR COLOR IS..........
I AM A CHAMPION FOR INNER BEAUTY BUT A LITTLE MASCARA NEVER HURTS, NEITHER DOES A TOUCH OF BLUSH, OR MAYBE A SMIDGEN OF EYE SHADOW AND SOME TONER. DON'T FORGET THE LIP LINER AND SOME ROUGE, JUST TO ADD SOME OUTER BEAUTY TOO.
WHAT HAPPEBS WHEN YOU HAVE NO MAKEUP.
YOU HAVE THIS NATURAL RADIANCE.
ITS BEAUTY AT ITS PUREST, NATURALLY STUNNING.
WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET.
UNFILTERED, RAW, FAB BEAUTY.
SHOWING YOUR TRUE COLOURS, SO TO SPEAK.
FLAUNTING WHAT YOU GOT, INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU NOT.
YOU UNKEASH YOUR NATURAL BEAUTY .
BEAUTIFULLY YOU........
AU NATURELLE.
AS MENTION EARLIER, JUST LITTLE BIT WOULDNT KILL YOU.
LOOK YOUR BEST , NO HARM IN THAT
She said...
Age gracefully... but act authentically and be loud and share your wisdom even if the younger generation don’t wanna hear it.
AGREED
She said...
Laugh along to the chats about Botox, but do casually ask for a good doctor’s number, you know, for research.
HA HA HA
She said...
That chin hair you felt on your way to work, has got to go...even if it is so minute it requires your glasses and the magnifying mirror to get the damn thing out.
GET RID OF YOUR 'STUBBLE'
I DONT WANT COMPETITION
She said... as she unwillingly peered in the mirror...
Mirrors takes guts... it takes a whole lot of self-love to be able to accept what looks back at you... we r our own worst critics.
MIRRORS DO TAKE GUTS. AGREED.
She said...
I don't look I bypass the figure.... my guts doesn’t extend that far.
She said ...
Go easy on yourself cause even rolling out of bed is a blessing - the body has been thru that many years of moving wants to slow down but what if we give in to the slowness...
DONT SLOW DOWN. EMBRACE IT. GRACEFULLY, EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO FAKE IT TO MAKE IT
She said
It's ok to treat others better than they treat you ... my set of love is different to yours and if we see everything as a threat then everything becomes a problem....
NO ARGUMENTS THERE
She said
Learn from those lessons. Accept. Swallow. Move on.
Some situations when I revisit them make me want to gag and hide ... I can't i just can't!
AGREED: DONT SWALLOW.......OR YOU MAY GAG
She said...
Every single sunrise came thru the darkest hour and if u r guided by faith, hope and the will ... it's going to be ....
WELL SAID
You said...
Living in shadows or in fear of being unworthy isn't a way to live ... we have days.
LIVE IN NO ONES SHADOW. YOU WILL LIVE FINE
Dont let one situation define you. As a human - whatever ur pronoun is or however you identify as - let the narrative of change be yours. SIMPLE NOT but you on your way ... that road awaits...
We ride at ....
Darling, we don’t age, we are vintage.
MMMMMMM.......
Lots to think about - how wonderful we all get to be heard
DeleteI feel ya! Celebrate the calm - rebuild peace in the storms
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DeleteWe age gracefully, wisdom is there so are the aches and pains. We have learnt to love ourselves and that's what makes everyday a little easier to handle. You truely have a way with words!
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